choosing plants for a North Facing Shady Patio / courtyard

Anemone Honorine Jobert 

Available from Claire Austin Hardy Plants

https://www.claireaustin-hardyplants.co.uk/products/anemone-x-hybrida-honorine-jobert

Hi.


We currently have a paved area surrounded on two sides by walls and on one side by a glass conservatory. It gets some sun in the summer but in the winter its in deep shade.  The paved area is dark and prone to algae and moss. Currently it is a gloomy place apart from in summer when it provides much appreciated shade.

I wanted to make it a more positive space and give it a cottagey feel like the rest of the garden. So I've been doing my homework!

I'm planning to take up some of the paving and replace it with gravel which will look lighter and also allow plants to self seed which I like. I won't be putting a membrane under the gravel. I may live to regret this!

I'll also put in plenty of pots which will I'll allow to spread seed.

I am also going to expand an existing border and make space to plant a climbing rose.

I've noticed that light yellow looks spectacular in this area so my plant list, which has taken me loads of time to do- includes whites, creams and yellows.

Anemone Honorine Jobert
Lemon Zest Marigold
Lysimachia Numulari
Hellebore Niger
Rose Alberic Barbier or Lady of the lake (the latter has some pink but I just love it)
Columbine Nivea or Chrysantha
Narcissus Minnow
Welsh Poppy
Anenome Lipsiensis
Japanese Shield Fern.

As I've just spent loads on making a wildflower lawn this remains a wish list for the moment. Probably not for long though knowing my addiction to buying plants!

Can't wait

Love caroline




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So excited about my new short wildflower lawn

Hi
This is a bit of an experiment. I've a large area of gravel surrounded by flower borders in my garden.

As a child we had a lovely lawn full of clover, daisies and buttercups and I wanted to recreate it. .

I phoned the people on wildseed.co.uk for advice. They were very helpful and they recommended mixture EL1 for my clay soil. This can be regularly mown but is still full of flowers which is good as I want it to be a bit tidier than a wildflower meadow so I can still enjoy my existing borders. So I ordered it this morning. Here are the flowers and grasses it contains. Its got Red Clover and Buttercups just as I wanted and lots more besides. I'm planning on leaving the middle of the area a bit longer and mowing a winding patch through it a bit shorter for effect.

I had asked if their mix included daisies but was told that its too difficult to collect Daisy Seed but if I steal a plant from somewhere and plant it in the lawn that it will rapidly self seed.

https://wildseed.co.uk/mixtures/view/56


I then got quotes for the topsoil I need but they were coming in at around £700! I really needed poor quality soil as this is what wildflowers need but that was even more expensive at around £850. This is too much for frugal nature I'm afraid.

So I'm trying a compromise of my own invention. I'm going to remove the membrane under the gravel, spike the underlying clay soil with a fork to loosen. Then mix the good top soil I've ordered with all the gravel that is already there. This brought the price for the top soil down to £220. Much less painful for my purse.

So its a bit of an experiment.

The mix comes with instructions for the whole process and maintenance after - no mention of using up waste gravel though!!

This weekend I'm preparing the site and the new soil arrives on Monday  - so I can sow the seed mixture in early spring.

Wish me luck - I'll let you know how I get on.

Caroline

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Poppy Garden - a painting by Karen Mathison Schmidt

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Ever since I bought a  lovely floral/garden print by Rachel Vollerthun I've been on the look out for more garden prints I can put up at home. Bringing the pleasure of flowers indoors. Cottage garden or flower paintings can be a little twee I feel but this one is not. It reminds me of the Californian poppies in my front garden in the height of summer.

This one is called Poppy Garden by Karen Mathison Schmidt, an artist in Louisiana.
Garden and prints can be bought from e-bay. Link below.

https://www.ebay.com/itm/KMSchmidt-16x12-LTD-Ed-PRINT-fauve-impressionist-POPPY-GARDEN-red-yellow-POPPIES/162513968094?hash=item25d6965bde:g:iHAAAOSwxu5ZFj5G












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My Experience of Giving Gardening Lessons To My Baby Sister!

Hi there

I have a sister 16 years younger than me - she was a bit of a surprise for my parents! She has been saying she wants to learn to garden but for ages has not been able to get what she needs from books.

In the past I used to write and deliver courses on computer skills so I asked her what she needed to learn and I set about writing half an hour  lessons for her.

There is some key knowledge she needs and also she needs to gain confidence by doing. So I wrote a list of things to cover and some ideas of how to learn them by doing short easy projects.

For example growing a geranium she can learn about feeding, watering, planting, choosing a plant for a particular situation, deadheading and also taking cuttings and some basic design principles such as grouping identical plants for maximum effect.

So far we've had lessons on parts of a plant and what they do, needs of a plant and how they have adapted for various situations, the general principles of pruning and how to find out how to prune specific plants.

Each week there is a short task to do and we chat about how it went.

Each lesson is written on a template - in the first column is the topic title. In the second is the points to cover - for each I try to involve her by getting her to brainstorm the answers rather than me just telling her things. The third column is for more advanced useful information relating to each point to add interest.

We are both really enjoying the experience. I find she is thinking of many ideas for herself and is now able to cope with reading up and using key gardening books such as Geoff Hamilton's practical gardening course and also RHS pocket guide to pruning.

She is saying that I am filling in essential gaps in her knowledge.

I already have 10 lessons written up and could easily do many at higher levels.

There is so much to learn with gardening, it never stops, but it is such a pleasure to give someone the confidence to learn for themselves!

Take care
Caroline

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The picture above is by Karen Mathison Schmidt and is called Garden of Grace. Prints are available in her ebay store.

http://karenmathisonschmidtgallery.blogspot.co.uk/2013/11/garden-of-grace-impressionist-painting.html











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The secret garden - Morroco - inspiring gardens

Hi

This has to be one of the most beautiful gardens I've ever seen. I just had to write about it.  It is the sort of garden that makes me want to recreate it for myself. 

Its in Marakesh, Morocco. Monty describes it as "breathtakingly simple". 

There are some Olive trees around the edges, Rosemary forms a low hedge around each area. The main plant used is a grass - Stipa Tenuissima - each grass plant appears to be clipped individually, and is upright. So it doesn't look like a lawn. 

There are small patches of a pale Lavender and a few patches of Cape Garlic. Both pale violet or blueish in tint which goes with the silver leaves and the tiles on the pavement. 

Why does it work - I think its because of the following. 

It has a very limited palette - Mainly green with some silver mixed in. Some pale greys and blues in the tiles (see below). There are very few types of plants so there is a lot of repeating of plants. Both of these are good design principles. The amount of green in the garden gives it such a relaxing feel. 

I came across it watching a BBC programme called Paradise Gardens presented by Monty Don. 

To see the clip from the programme - go to.  http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05txncq

The garden was designed by Tom Stuart-Smith who is based in the UK http://www.tomstuartsmith.co.uk/  You can see Tom's own garden - the Barn Garden through the National Gardens Scheme on the 10th June 2018. Its nr St Albans, Hertfordshire, UK

https://www.ngs.org.uk/?bf-garden=11970 Definitely a date for my diary.

The plants
Stipa Tenuissima Link to buy plant - Jacksons Nurseries
Cape Garlic - Tulbaghia Violacea available from Unwins see picture below.
Lavender - Pale Pretender available from Perry Hill Nurseries.
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I hope you love it as much as I do.

Caroline
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Blackcurrant leaf tea - delicious and free from my garden

Hi there

A while ago I bought a blackcurrant bush - Big Ben - Since then I've made a couple more bushes for free by taking a stem and putting in the ground in autumn and just leaving until its rooted.

I was browsing the web for infusions/teas and found that blackcurrant leaf tea is recommended

I put a few leaves in a teapot and steeped for 10 to 15 minutes and served with sugar in a posh white cup. It helps the flavour - honest!

It is really delicious  and smells gorgeous - all the flavour of blackcurrants with no acidity. Perhaps my favourite ever free tea from my garden.

I use the mature leaves (the young ones don't have much taste) but not from late summer onwards as they lose their flavour again. I pick a few from each stem - usually near the top of the stems. The leaves freeze well and make just as good tea so you can treat yourself throughout the winter .

Hope you try it

Caroline
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Lavender tea, (from my garden) with homemade scones butter and lavender honey - and "Sunshine on Leith" - HEAVEN

Hi

Thanks for dropping by .

I love to make teas from things that grow in my garden - Lavender tea is one of my favourite. It freezes well. I have a lot of lavender in my garden so lots of free tea for me!

The young leaves or young flowers make the best tea - a few sprigs in a tea pot and let it steep for 10 to 15 minutes. Then pour into a nice broad cup so that you can best smell the tea. A white china cup is nicest - it needs sugar or best of all honey in it I find.

My lovely husband gave me some lavender honey for Christmas. It is really delicious. Its from Littleover apiary.

Lavender Honey Link to buy

I often make scones - some butter, self raising flour, sugar and milk - flatten gently then bake on 180 degrees fan oven. I measure it by eye I'm afraid. 

I laid a tray with all these goodies and put on Sunshine on Leith  - a wonderful feel good film. The ending sequence makes you smile from ear to ear - its based on the music of the proclaimers and the song for the final sequence is - if I could walk 500 miles... I expect you know it.

Below is a link to the final scene - my favourite!

Link to final scene of Sunshine on Leith

Anyway - my tea tray plus that film made for a lovely treat.

Love
Caroline
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Viburnum Tinis - taming the monster - loads of free stuff!

Hi there

Beautiful flowers aren't they. This is Viburnam Tinis - perhaps its seems the perfect bush - lovely glossy evergreen leaves. Beautiful flowers from around late November well into Spring with a lovely delicate scent. What's not to like?

Well we have one in our front garden - its around 35 years old and in spite of regular pruning its about 20 foot by 15 foot. It should be pruned after flowering but that is when its full of nesting birds so we can't touch it. If we prune earlier we miss out on the lovely flowers.

I decided to "lift the crown". Cutting back the lower branches to leave the arching leaves and flowers at the top of the bush. The birds can still nest in it and we can still enjoy the flowers.

My lovely husband stepped into the cold with his electric saw and special blade for cutting green wood. Half an hour later the job was done. The cuts look raw at the moment but they will soon blacken up and not be so noticeable.

As a result of our labours we now have many free sacks of small logs which we will mature for a year or so then use on our open fire. We also a free sack or two of small twigs for kindling as well as some sacks of greenery to shred to make free mulch.

Just to complete the list of freebies we also have two vases of the flowers from the bush gently spreading scent in the house.

A good mornings work and enjoyable - We are now rewarding ourselves with cheesy chips. Well we must have burned off a few calories!

Just as I finished clearing away I  noticed Mr and Mrs Robin from a previous blog finding lots to eat around the area we had been working.

I'm a happy frugal gardener!

Take care

Caroline

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My idea for training my new rose

Ghislaine De Feligonde Rambling Rose

My Mum bought me this lovely new rose for my birthday last year it has clusters of these beautiful little flowers.

I don't know where my mum bought it from - there is no nursery name on the label but I did see on the internet that David Austen Roses sell it. Link below if you want to treat yourself.

https://www.davidaustinroses.co.uk/ghislaine-de-feligonde

Its done very well in the gravel area near the spring seat - its grown one stem around 6 foot long in 7 months and quite a few other stems that are only around 2 foot long.

I've put lengths of wire on the fence I want it to ramble up but most of the new shoots aren't long enough to reach the wires I want to tie them to.

I knew that you are meant to choose about 6 strong stems and fan them out when training a climbing rose so I tied lengths of garden twine to the base of the rose and tied them onto the wires to form a fan. I was then able to use more twine to tie 6 of the strongest shoots to the twine fan so that they will grow in the direction I want them to.

Any weaker shoots I pruned back to an outward facing bud at different heights to give some flowering growth at different levels of the plant including near the base.

The prunings I cut into sections to see if I can grow this rose from cuttings. Its a long shot. I cut above a leaf joint, as the books suggest and then just below a leaf joint at the base of each cutting. I've buried them up to half their length and in groups of three at various points along the fence. Its not cost me anything to try though I doubt I'll have much luck.

Its likely they will produce leaves and look as though they are doing well for a few months at least but I will only know if I've been successful once they actually start growing upwards. I'll let you know how I get on.

Happy Gardening - even if the weather is far from ideal
Caroline
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A garden romance inspite of my mistake

HI there.

As you know I've cut back a lot of Ivy from the fences around my garden in the past few days to make way for other climbers. I have left patches of Ivy as I know birds like to nest there and also possibly roost over the winter.

While I was doing this a couple of days ago out fell a little nest - it was very soft and the moss woven into still green so I felt guilty. Although this is the middle of January and birds shouldn't be nesting one of my garden birds hadn't looked at their calendar!

Shortly after this I was sitting inside with a well earned cup of earl grey redbush (my favourite) when I saw Mr and Mrs Robin scavenging for nesting material and carrying it off to a patch of Ivy I had left.  I felt a little more cheery. Their beaks were stuffed with stuff on each trip - they obviously meant business and were feeling in the mood!

Today Mr Robin was plainly building up his stamina as he was only a couple of feet from me when I I was working in the garden and he was gobbling up wriggly creatures I'd disturbed my moving a rotten log.

Our swing seat is near the Ivy where they are nesting - I will be looking out for the little ones later in the year.

If you like the photo above it came from the website of a charity called Little Foxes Wildlife Rescue. Please do drop by and perhaps make a donation. Link is below.

http://www.littlefoxes.org.uk/

Happy gardening

Caroline






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Pots of geraniums for your windowsill - very cheap or free and very easy to grow.

Painting by Susan Savad of Three Pots of Geranium on a Windowsill. Prints available see below.

Hi.

In a previous blog about bringing the garden into my home I showed a picture of an abstract painting of a garden by Rachel Vollerthun which I've just bought and love. Inspired by this I've been searching on the internet for other flower or garden paintings I might also love. I did find this one today.

I found this lovely painting on Fine Art America where they have many sized prints available for as little as £21. Link below.

Fine art america - link to painting of geraniums

One of the reasons I love it is that I've always had geraniums (aka Pelargoniums) on my windowsills in rows of terracotta pots.

They suit my frugal nature  - they an be bought for next to nothing, they are very difficult to kill and survive neglect. They flower most of the year. You will need to take off blooms that are dying by gently pulling off the plant.

You can also make loads more for free. In late summer (or most times of year to be honest) use a sharp knife to cut off the top 8 inches of a new stem. Gently pull off all the leaves apart from two or three small ones at the top. Then bury the stem in a pot of John Innes no 2 compost to about half its depth. No need to use rooting hormone.

I usually use a larger terracotta pot (very cheap) about 8 to 10 inches in diameter and put 3 or 4 such cuttings spaced out in the one pot. I then put in a well lit place but out of direct sunlight which is above 10 degrees C. Water one a week, there is no need to overwater as they store water in their stems.  Within a month or so they will start growing as they will have rooted. 

As they start growing every time a stem gets to about 10 inches tall - cut off the top 2 inches of each stem. This encourages branches to be made and a more well rounded plant with more flowers.

As well as filling your windowsill they make great gifts. They are also a great way to begin to learn gardening - skills learned will be watering, taking cuttings, pinching off tips to encourage branching.

There are loads and loads of varieties to buy. I like allwoods.com where I've bought some before for as little as £3.50 each. They sell traditional geraniums with all colours, ones with variegated leaves and beautifully scented geraniums. Below is a link to their website.

Allwoods Geraniums/Pelargoniums website

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Zentangle Garden

With proverb!

Zentangle can be so relaxing to do - better than drugs I reckon.

I used to meditate for many years which was good but I find it so much easier and better for my anxiety to do something rather than do tricks with my mind. Zentangle was a real find!

Its cheap too - a very fine ink pen costs only around £2.50 - and any scraps of reasonably absorbent paper. Lots of patterns online - particularly on Pinterest to copy too.

Caroline
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Problem solved - Evergreens to cover a problem fence frugally

Hi

My garden is wider than it is long. It also has a horrendous 6 foot high wooden fence all the way round it. Disguising it is an ongoing problem in the winter particularly at the back of the garden where I can't use shrubs as the back fence only has a shallow border in front of it which, as its the sunniest place in our N facing garden is needed for roses! There are also too many climbers on it to paint it.

I have a clematis Montana on it and although its covered a lot of fence as it loses its leaves in winter.

I have also had various Ivy's which can look really nice but  they invade the border below where I like to grow things!I swear they wait until I'm not looking then grows another 4 foot in either direction tangling up with other climbers and smothering plants in my borders.

Last year I've put in a lot of lovely climbing roses which are so far only a couple of feet high but should take off in 2018. So my job over the last few days has been to trim back climbers I want less of such as the Montana and Ivy to make space for the roses and to put in more wires for their support and begin to train them on the wire.

I've also put in some Boston Ivy - Parthenocissus Tricuspidata Veitchii - which has amazing red leaves in autumn that look particularly spectacular when wet. It only went in last year but has shoots up to 3 foot high so I'm hopeful for 2018.

All this - and still ugly bare patches in winter. Wish I could have a lovely brick wall!

So being a frugal gardener  - how can I solve the problem.

I'vealready put in some self seeded cotoneaster Horizontalis I found in another part of the garden - but they are tiny at the moment. I shall have a hunt around for other suitable seedlings.

I've also pinched some cuttings of a white buddleia last week and have popped them in a pot. I am hoping I can put some of these into the borders in front of the fence as they can be semi evergreen.

I have a Lonicera Nitida which is continually breeding babies nearby - this would be evergreen and would cover a bit of the fence if I can keep it back narrow enough so it doesn't take up much of the border - I shall dig one of the babies up at the weekend  - it would be a good time to transplant it. 

I also have a mature Trachelospermum Jasminoides in the front garden. I've had it about 15 years - its evergreen but has some red colour in the leaves in autumn and winter which is nice. It also has strongly scented white flower in summer. Its easy to keep under control.  According to the RHS website propagation is by layering or semihardwood cuttings. I think I'll try both! Another job for the weekend.


Will this year be the one where my fence looks nice in winter? Wish me luck!



Take care
Caroline
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My most favourite rose of all time

Dear Reader

This stunning rose is Lady Emma Hamilton. It is the best rose ever I think!


https://www.davidaustinroses.co.uk/lady-emma-hamilton

I bought mine from David Austin Roses - link above.

I bought it last year and have fallen in love with it. I've a lot of lovely roses, some with fantastic scents in my garden but this is the most beautiful and has the best scent of all. It is named after the mistress of Lord Nelson!

It is the most gorgeous blend of colours. I usually go for things like blush pink roses, lavender, catmint, and generally pastel shades in my garden - this is an unusual choice for me but it looks stunning with the colours I already have.

It leaves are a wonderful colour - you can just make them out in the picture, I'm not sure how to describe the colour but there is dark green, red and bronze in there!

The scent is just wonderful its like marmalade and citrus. I picked a bloom and put it on the dash of my car just as we were heading off carpacking  in the wilds of the NW coast of Scotland. For a week I could bury my nose in it and enjoy the scent which lasted, unchanged for at least a week.

Its repeat flowering, its leaves are still on the plant and its mid January. It has good disease resistance and certainly has been looking healthy in my garden. It has won an award of garden merit from the Royal Horticultural Society. It also won 1st Prize for its fragrance in the Prix International at the Nantes trials in France. I think it richly deserves these awards and I hope it got to go to the ceremonies and had a good tea afterwards.

I do hope you try it out in your garden

Caroline
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Key words - rose scent "cottage gardens" best perfect "English rose" "david Austin" "recommended rose"

Bringing the pleasure of gardens into your home

Hi there

I've been looking for a cottage garden painting for ages to put up in my house - but they are a little too idyllic for my taste.  I've just found the one above and love it - I'm ordering a print of it for my wall at home and the colours give me such a lift!

Yesterday we had an amazing morning looking at the paintings of a local artist Rachel Vollerthun. She uses colour very much as we use colour when we choose plants, mixing and blending and trying things out.

I particularly loved the paintings she had involving flowers and the wonderful colours she uses. The one above seems captures the beauty of a garden but with out some of the potential tweeness of some old cottage garden paintings. I just love it. She has some prints for sale of the above painting and many other originals and prints for you to enjoy and perhaps even buy on her website.

http://www.vollerthun.com/


I came home, got out some inktense pens and tried to recreate some of her ideas. I have a long way to go but so enjoyed it.

Here are some more of her paintings I loved. If you like them too please do share them with your friends via facebook, etc.

When there is not a lot of colour in the garden what a lot of pleasure I get from such pictures. I hope you do too.

Love
Caroline

Key words Colour Garden "Colour schemes", paint, beautiful, "cottage garden" Design "garden design" "working with colour" art Cambridgeshire Gardener "oil painting"

free plants found in first gardening session of the year!

Free plants - Ivy Leaved Toadflax and Golden Marjoram

Good morning

Yesterday morning the weather was brilliant so I headed out for my first gardening session of 2018.

In the sunny border in my front garden which is surrounded by a brick wall and slightly raised I spent time clearing away dead leaves, twigs and cut back the dead growth from plants like Aquilegia and Feverfew. I cut back my Nepeta (cat mint) which is now looking a bit straggly and was cheered to find new growth waiting for spring, I'd only planted it last summer so it was reassuring to see its doing fine.

As I tidied up I found a few seedlings of an Cymbalaria Muralis (Ivy Leaved Toadflax)  an old cottage garden flower.  Last year I had put a mass of them on a tub and they looked lovely. So I put the seedlings by the edge of the wall at the front of the border, grouped together. They should look nice spilling over the low wall in the summer.

I also cut back  a golden marjoram which I have had for many years and is a large clump which had become straggly, again underneath was a mass of young leaves. I love it as it gives a lovely splash of colour to the border all year round. Once it was cut back  around the edge I found a couple of little baby golden marjoram plants that have grown out from the main plant. I dug them up and put them either side of the path to the front door so they spill over the path a little. They should look nice with the welsh poppies, daffodils and yellow aquilegia I have in that area.

Happy freebie hunting

Caroline
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Happiness!

Hello

How is your day going

Most people can feel down from time to time. I learned this tip years ago from a book on depression and have recommended it to lots of people who say it really works for them too.

Every night take a minute to write down three positive things, for example:

3 things you did well today (no matter how small)

3 things good about you

3 things good about someone you know

3 things positive in your life

3 things you appreciate in your life

3 things that interest you

and so on ....

If you feel motivated choose more than set of three things to do each night.

Writing them down is important for it to work

If you feel very low you will find this hard to start with but choose very small things.

For example:  I brushed my hair this morning - I did the washing up today. I have enough food to eat. The sun shone today for a bit. I heard a bird sing.

Its hard sometimes to be positive, particularly about ourselves - but you will find over time it gets easy and you will have lots of ideas.

you may see an improvement in your mood as soon as after one week - or it may take a longer - don't give up - its worth it.

Let me know how you get on

Lots of love

Caroline

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In praise of catmint - stunning combined with herbs and roses.

Good morning

Hope you slept well.

I've always resisted buying catmint - I imagined it smelled bad and had visions of it encouraging cats to roll all over my garden.

How wrong I was. I bought some last year for the first time and this year I'm going to take lots and lots of cuttings and dot it around my cottage garden. It flowered right up to mid December and now in early January it still has good foliage to add winter interest to my cottage garden border. The multitude of cats I imagined were no where to be seen and the smell whilst not the best if you squash the leaves and stick your nose into it, from any other perspective is non existent.

The leaves are a delicate grey green which go so well with herbs like rosemary, thyme, purple sage and lavender. Catmint looks wonderful with most  delicately coloured roses such as those from David Austin but particularly with delicate blush roses like Penelope. I have the above combination of flowers in my cottage garden border at the front of my house.

Key to the picture above:

Top Left is rose Penelope (from David Austin Roses). Top right is Catmint – Nepeta Racemosa Walkers Low (from Perry Hill Nurseries). Bottom left is Purple Sage  and Thyme and bottom right is Lavender Munstead (widely available)

Please note I'm not connected with any plant sellers mentioned.

Key words: Cottage Garden Gardening Plant combinations Rose Catmint Sage Thyme Lavender Beautiful pastel Herbs Scent easy to grow

Cleaner House, Less Stress!

Hi there.

I have a sister who is 16 years younger than me and juggling work and young children and supporting a partner with a demanding career. She is encouraging me to share my method which has helped her so much. It seems obvious - but it makes such a difference. I promise!

I don't like cleaning!
I tend to put it off until the house is looking horrendous and its become a huge job
I don't have time for "spring cleaning" - windows, Cupboards - you know the sort of thing.
My sister was the same.


Cleaning an be a job that seems never ending - your home appears to always be filthy to you - this is about setting a limit to how much you do and being happier with what you have done. Its also about knowing that your house is cleaned to an acceptable standard and that you can rest!

So I adapted my cleaning list for her that I've used for years. She has found it invaluable and is quite evangelical about it to friends and family.

How to .....

For each room you list all the jobs that need doing including those that you think are spring cleaning jobs - hoover, mop, windows in and out, dust, clean out cupboards, mirrors, sink, bath, shower, doors, skirting boards, dado rails, cobwebs, change sheets, bath the dog, gardening, ironing, etc.

Then you think how often in a month you really need to do each task. The aim is to do each task as seldom as possible (to reduce work and stress) whilst keeping the house at a standard of cleaning you want. For example I feel that most rooms only want hovering once a week but some areas of the house - hall, kitchen, lounge, stairs, which get a lot of traffic might need a second hovering.

The more detailed the list - tasks broken down into small units - the more you will want to do them as in just a few spare minutes you can choose a few very short jobs to do and then. enjoy crossing them off  your list.  By the end of the week you will be amazed at how much you have achieved by just a few minutes at a time.

Some jobs you may want to set a manageable time limit to to encourage you to do it little and often -for example half an hour in the garden.

Sometimes you may also want to set yourself a time target per day for cleaning - for example half an hour. Setting a small amount of time often means you get more done. Not setting an amount of time often means that it takes ages and more and more appears to need doing as you look critically around your house.

Keep the list on your computer so you can print a new one off each month and adapt as you need.

Below is an excerpt from my own list you might like to use as a template.

Do give it a try - it makes such a difference!

Let me know if you found it helpful

JOBS TO DO

Wc monday	Wc monday	Wc monday	Wc monday	Wc monday
Kitchen Surfaces and sink Dust Wipe chairs vacuum mop Clean out a cupboard	Kitchen Surfaces and sink vacuum mop Low cupboard fronts cobwebs	Kitchen Surfaces sink vacuum Mop Windows	Kitchen Surfaces and sink High cupboard fronts Vacuum mop	Kitchen Surfaces and sink Vacuum  mop Skirting Doors
Landing Handrails vacuum	Landing Door vacuum	Landing Dado rail and light switches, vacuum	Landing Skirting, vacuum cobwebs	Landing Pictures, book case, vacuum
Stairs Vacuum skirting	Stairs vacuum Handrail Wipe over carpet	Stairs vacuum Skirting Marks on walls	Stairs vacuum handrail	Stairs vacuum skirting
Vacuum round	Vacuum round	Vacuum round	Vacuum round	Vacuum round
ironing	ironing	ironing	ironing	ironing

Remember yourself!

Paperwork	Paperwork	Paperwork	Paperwork	Paperwork
Interests	Interests	Interests	Interests	Interests
Relaxation	Relaxation	Relaxation	Relaxation	Relaxation
Social	Social	Social	Social	Social
Exercise	Exercise	Exercise	Exercise	Exercise
Crafts	Crafts	Crafts	Crafts	Crafts

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Celebrity inspires and gives confidence to those with Aspergers - including me!

Hello, how are things.

Did you have a chance to watch the BBC2 documentary/film with Chris Packham "Asperger's and me". My son, who is on the spectrum recommended it and I was so glad I watched it. I can't recommend it highly enough.

Reviews I found on line said it was "stunning, brave and ballsy, utterly fascinating and incredibly moving".   Absolutely!

I am in awe of all he has achieved in his life in spite of (or perhaps because of )his Asperger's. Being a celebrity and being on camera most of his working life and in the public eye given that he is likely to find social interactions difficult and painful and needs a lot of solitude is astounding to me. I have found that if I am really passionate about something - an environmental campaign I ran, selling Mental Health First Aid to the bosses in my work place - then I can push myself to speak in front of other people but this is a once a year type of thing, not every day.

I am outwardly sociable and am told I can be good company and very funny but I find it exhausting and it makes me anxious to socialise for very long particularly if it involves groups of people. Going to a concert or (in the past) to church, parties, big family gatherings, weddings, funerals, training events, work meetings. I really struggle with them all and find I can be exhausted afterwards often with a migraine and need to head to bed at 6 or 7 in the evening and will sleep for 12 hours or more. I find I just want to shut down my brain completely - no books, no TV, no people. I struggle to say no to invitations and hate appearing rude or unfriendly either by not going or by my behaviour at the event. I don't like upsetting people at all.

But I do admire Chris in the programme. At one point his stepdaughter wants him to come to her graduation and he stands up for the fact he won't enjoy it and doesn't want to go. He also doesn't live with his long standing partner and lives alone in a beautiful, isolated rural location with his dog. He stands up for himself in terms of what he needs and what he finds difficult or painful to do.

He has given me more confidence in protecting myself.  I firmly turned down too many big social gatherings this Christmas. For example I have recently struggled with two new potential friendships going horribly wrong and it made me quite down until I realised that I have enough close relationships in my life - and realised I don't have to push myself continually to make more if it is at such a cost.

Chris had a huge response to his programme. Below is the link to his reply to everyone.

http://www.chrispackham.co.uk/news/aspergers-and-me-thank-you

I love where he talks about people who worked on the programme. "These people deserve more praise than I do . . . all I did was go on, and on, and on about birds, battles, art, cars . . . more birds . . . aeroplanes . . . books . . ."

I agree wholeheartedly with everything he says. In particular that each person with Autism, Asperger's or ASD is different and that we owe it to each other to talk about it. This is certainly a key motivation behind my blog. Even if I help just one person along their journey of discovery it will have been worth while.

I hope you enjoy watching as much as I did.

All the best
Caroline

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